it’s Monday again!


Neiti M nukkui hyvin, mutta ilmeisesti maanantain aamuherääminen oli yhtä vaikeaa kuin vanhemmillakin… Miss M slept quite well last night, but hey, Monday morning isn’t anyones favorite…! Though she doesn’t know the difference yet, but anyway. And here’s also a proof that she really isn’t always so quiet or happy and smiley. This is what her “my tummy hurts and I don’t wanna wake up”- face looks like!

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8 weeks tomorrow!


For the last 6 weeks we’ve been kinda “busy” with everyday life and with colic… still! Little girl has been crying every night with clear signs of tummy pains at least for 3 hours, during the worst nights from 6 pm to 3 am, and one weekend I got to sleep around 4.30 am… And her daytime naps are very short, like half an hour and the maximum sleep time at night has been 4 hours straight at best.
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Our friends borrowed us a nice bouncing/vibrating bouncer/babysitter (by Fisher Price) which also has and extra “toy bar” which includes some nice polarbears, a turtle and colorful fish parts with music and moving parts (and the “songs” aren’t that bad either, and it’s not the same one tune over and over again!). Baby has been very happy with the bouncer, especially because or the vibrating/bouncing, cause it seems to help a bit for those colic symptoms. And it’s way more comfy to sit like at the livingroom with us than the car seat we’ve been using before. So we’d highly recommend this (kinda) product for any parents with a newborn (even if you don’t have colic!).

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We’ve also changed our previous milk formulas (Nan and Arla Organic baby) a bit and added also Nutrilon Omneo (a product by Nutrica) which is a powder formula designed for babies with colic or other problems with normal basic fromulas. Even with the right dosing (water and powder), it seems to be a bit more “heavier” then normal formula, so we’ve mixed it (like 60/40) with those basic milk formulas, so it’s easier to feed from the bottle.
Since Mommy A isn’t breastfeeding, it never even started properly (cause of the c-section and since Miss M spent first 3 days at the NICU), and at home with all the colic and crying&screaming we totally gave up and anyway there would’ve not been enough milk coming anyway.

And we don’t even have enough energy to care what some other mom’s or nurses are thinking. Since she’s growing very well (she’s at +3 line at the growth chart with both height and weight!), and eating well even with colic, we came to the conclusion, that the most important thing is that the baby eats, no matter if it’s bereastmilk or formula!
And we also believe that a baby with enough stress with her tummy already, doesn’t need any more stress with the idea that we would’ve tried to only feed her with breastmilk. Many people have commented that “it just needs time and patience, and then the milk starts coming and baby will get all the milk from mommy”! We’ll we told them previously that they are more than welcome to come and see how we tried that with a screaming baby, many many times!

Since the colic symptoms started, we bought all those “gas-drops” recommended by professionals to ease the colic symptoms (in Finland those are Cuplaton, Kuplastop and Disflatyl and those contain dimethicone and simethicone, there is some difference between those two ingredients). At first it seemed that Cuplaton (dimethicone) was helping but after few weeks trying both of these products, it seemed that the symptoms were only getting worse! (and all these meds are like $20 per bottle… so for us, it was all waste of the money… and time/nerves!). The best “results” have so far been with Nutrilon powder,and since the price per litre for ready formula is the same as any other, it’s been the best decision to give it a try! So we have a little less crying & pains and a little more sleep! 🙂

(Nutrica also has fromula powders like for milk- and/or soy allergy, but those products are way more expensive. Though you can buy those from like any supermarket, if your baby really has even symptoms of allergy, you can get a prescription from the doc and get it way cheaper from the pharmacy, at least here in Finland!)

Se K-sana | The C Word


Muutaman viikon tauko on päässyt tapahtumaan sitten edellisen postauksen… tosin ihan hyvästä syystä, sekä positiivisessa että negatiivisessa mielessä…

Meillä on nyt kaunis pieni kolmevikkoinen tyttö, joka viime maanantaina (12.8.) neuvolassa punnittiin ja mitattiin, ja pituutta on nyt jo 55cm ja painoa 4750g. Eli syntymästä on kolmessa viikossa tullut pituutta 4cm ja painoa lisää reilu 500g.

Meillä on nyt myös jo melkein kaksi viikkoa ollut “kylässä” ei niin mukava vieras, koliikki. Pikkuneiti syö hyvin (kuten jo painon noususta huomaa) mutta kivuliaat vatsavaivat itkettävät jatkuvasti, nukkuminen onnistuu 2-3h pätkissä kerrallaan ja iltaisin/öisin itku (tai se on kyllä lähempänä huutoa, “tavallinen” vauvan itku kuulostaisi “ihan mukavalta”…) on pahimmillaan. Huonoimpina hetkinä neiti on valvonut illalla 18-03 ja nukkunut sitten 03-06…herätäkseen taas uudelleen klo 06…

Meillä on käytössä cuplaton-tipat jokaisen ruokailun yhteydessä, röyhtäytellään useampaan kertaan jokaisen syötön aikana ja pikkuinen rauhottuu parhaiten syliin jatkuvaan heijaamiseen. Neuvolassakin puhuttiin asiasta ja vyöhyketerapia on oikeastaan ainoa “hoitomuoto” joka on vielä kokeilematta. Vastikettakin on jo vaihdettu.

Kaikki yrittävät kovasti lohdutella, että 3kk iässä tämä menee ohi. Helpottava tieto sinäänsä, ettei mistään vakavammasta (toivottavasti) ole kyse. Mutta nyt kun on kaksi viikkoa takana ja vielä ne 8 tai 9 edessä, niin ei auta ottaa kuin päivä kerrallaan. Oman univajeen ja jatkuvan huutamisen rinnalla kaikkein pahinta on kuitenkin se, kun näkee kuinka pieneen masuun sattuu ja asialle ei voi oikein tehdä mitään 😦 Eli tavallinen vauvoille tyypillinen “yökitinä” olisi kovin “mukavaa” tämän rinnalla…

Sen isompia “pulautteluja” tai oksentamista meillä ei ole ollut, joten tämä viittaisi siihen, että esim. refluksitaudista tai maitoallergiasta ei pitäisi olla kyse… Joten tässä varmaankin ensisijaisesti auttaa vain aika, oireiden lievitys ja pitkä pinna…! Joten jos sinulla on kokemusta koliikista ja etenkin sen “hoitokeinoista”, niin kaikki vinkit otetaan vastaan!

We’ve had a few weeks break from posting, now with a positive reason ❤ and also with a bit more negative one…

Now that we have a bit over 3 weeks old cutest little girl, we couldn't be happier! Last Monday she weighted 4750g/55cm (10.47lb / 1.8 ft). So she's growing well and fast. But during the last week or so, we've also had a "new visitor" in our household, a colic. Every parent who's ever had a colicky baby knows how it is and feels…

We've been using the "gas drops", changed formula once already, we burp her at least once during and after every feeding etc. She doesn't throw up/burp everything out, so according to our nurse, this doesn't seem like it could be reflux symptoms or milk allergy. But she's crying/screaming every night at least 3hrs and then sleeps 2 to 3h and then, even after feeding routine again, she can continue still after we swaddle her, gently rub her tummy or carry her closely in an upright position… So during the worst nights, she's been crying from 6pm to 3am when she falls to sleep to wake up at 6am again…!

Or she falls asleep between 9 to 10pm and sleeps like 2hrs and it takes another 2 to get her back to sleep. Car rides or pushing her around in her car seat/pram seems to calm her a bit, but you cant sleep and drive/walk at the same time, so there's gonna be atleast one very tired mommy (or mommies) even when she's sleeping…

And like many people tell you (and you can read it online too) that this will pass and will be over when she's around 3 months.. But almost 2 weeks behind now and 8 or more still to go doesn't sound so great… And it would be so much easier to handle this if you'd see/know that this is "just crying" or the baby would cry cause she's just over-tired or hungry. But it's so much harder when you see that the baby is more or less in pain and there isn't much you can do to help her (not much that we haven't tried already…). That's what hurts the most and is the roughest part of all this.

After all this, it feels (at least right now!) that it would be SO MUCH easier to live with the baby who would just be “cranky” during the evening (or night) and refuses to sleep etc. And before this, we thought that colic is something that's pretty rare or that there must be some certain reason and cure for this constant crying. But the surprise was, when this topic started to hit closer to home, the fact that this condition affects more or less 10 to 20% of otherwise healthy babies (without any other physical condition).

So if you've had (or your friend has had) a little one with colic and if you have any tips or tales how to survive better, do share!

Epiduraalia ja supistuksia | Epidural and contractions


Ensimmäinen annos epiduraalia meni 17.50 ja toinen annos n. 20.00. Avautuminen on vasta puolivälissä, mutta oksitosiiniannos on nyt kolminkertainen aloitusannokseen verrattuna. Eli toivottavasti se hieman nopeuttaisi asioita. Mutta ellei ihmettä tapahdu, niin tuskin vielä tämämänkään vuorokauden puolella mitään tapahtuu… Huomisen puolella (23.7) klo 01.30 on tätä hommaa kestänyt 36h! Eli ainakin täällä on yksi väsynyt synnyttäjä ja yksi malttamaton tukihenkilö… Ja toisaalta myös vähän jo väsynyt “Äiti B”…

First dose of epidural went around 5.50pm and second one around 8pm. We’re already (or still) half way “there”. Oxcytocine dose has been tripled from the start dose, so we’re hoping that it will speed up things for real!

But unless there will be some quick turn with this labour, the “tummyalien” will not born today (July 22) so it goes until 23rd. At 01.30am (July 23rd) so in about 4,5hrs, the labor has lasted 36h…! So there is one tired “Mommy A” giving birth… And “Mommy B” is somewhere between tired, anxious and excited… (Though it gives some boost to be excited, otherwise I’d be half a sleep already…!).

Mutta nyt takaisin katsomaan vaimokkeen vointia js toivottavasti seuraavassa postauksessa on jo jotain vauvauutisia…!! ❤

But now I gotta go back inside and see how wifey is doing, and I hope that next post would be about baby news…!! ❤

Synnytys on alkanut! | Labor has started!


Eilen (22.7) saavuttiin synnärille 12.30. Vajaan vuorokauden balong-käynnistyksen (laitettiin 15.00) jälkeen vedet meni tänään 23.7 10.00, ja nyt (14.00) ollaan jo synnytyssalissa supistelemassa! ❤ Eli jos saataisiin masualien tänään jo maailmaan!

We arrived to the hospital yesterday (July 22nd) After almost 24h foley balloon induction, the waters broke today (July 23rd) at 10am and now (2pm) we are already at the delivery room and Mommy A is having tons of hard contractions already! So we hope that we'll meet our beautiful "tummyalien" today! ❤

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We here are still waiting for contractions really to start! I (Mummy B) was born during the full moon and many believe that it is really true, that there is a labor peak during it 🙂 (gotta find some facts if there is some data about this is it really true or just one of those rumors you hear!).

But the next full moon in Finland would be on Mon. July 22nd and we have that “induction appointment” at the hospital on Wed. 24th. So we can make a guess will that appointment be needed or do we already have a baby by then 😀

Vauvanvaatteita… | More clothes for the little one


Mitä lähemmäs laskettua aikaa mennään, niin sitä pidemmältä jokainen päivä tuntuu, ja on sellainen olo, että päivät kuluvat aivan liian hitaasti. Itselläni (Äiti B) tämä vielä menee, koska olen töissä, mutta Äiti A olisi jo varmasti 100% valmis synnyttämään. Eikä asiaa auta yhtään se fakta että nyt on heinäkuu ja ulkona on päivisin +25c (kun muutenkin tässä vaiheessa turvottaa) ja unen laatu on selkeästi heikentynyt, mitä lähemmäs LA:a mennään…

Alennusmyynnistä tuli taas ostettua yksi pieni söpö kameleontti-potkari, joka on ihanan raikkaan vihreä. Pilvikuosinen on jo aikaisemmin hankittu, mutta en muista onko sitä näkynyt kuvissa aikaisemmin. Kapp Ahl:ista löytyu myös ihana (naruton) luomupuuvillainen myssy ja 2 paria ohuita puuvillasukkia joista toisen parin voi laittaa “lapasiksi” ettei pikkuinen pääse raapimaan itseään. 2 paria ohuita luomupuuvillasukkia oli 5€ kun tuntuu että monista paikoista löytyy vain hieman paksumpia sukkia jotka ovat 4€/pari… Että sopivat enemmän sitten varmasti talvikäyttöön.

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We found one more cute green/lime cameleon onesie for the baby. The black&white with clouds is older, but I don’t remember if we’ve posted a pic of it before. I recently also found a little cute “beanie” and 2 pairs of thin organic cotton socks. The thinner socks are nice for summer and the other pair can be used as mittens, so the baby wont scratch his/her skin with sharp fingernails.

We’re now om week 38 (37+3) and since baby is now already a “full term” we’re really hoping that the baby would come out before the June 24th when we have an appointment to find out about induction methods (cause they want the baby to born before DD (July 29th).

And the one who is waiting for it the most is Mommy A, cause during the last few weeks its been like +25c/77F here and it doesn’t help to be “extra bloated” (b/c of pregnancy and plus the weather!). And her sleeping isn’t anymore as stabe as it was like few months ago, cause now she’s up like at least 3 times per night (gotta go to the toilet, turn sround in bed etc.).

So we’re hoping that something will happen soon! 🙂 During this week she’s had few separate short (but real) contractions per day, so we hope that it’a sigh that its really starting to happen!

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Viikko 37/38 | Week 37/38


We had a week 37 (36+3) check-up on July 3rd at the hospital (w/doc and midwife), and by ultrasound measurements, the baby already weights 3620g/7lb 15oz …! So it’s not gonna be a small one!

Though due to the gestational diabetes, they were talking that the pregnancy will be induced by/on due date (July 29th) if it doesn’t start naturally before that… And Mommy A’s BP was 145/95, so she’s gonna go to the maternity clinic twice a week for some more tests… (they said that only the high BP isn’t a sign of pre-eclampsia, but that’s why they are monitoring it now. And the urine test was ok.)

Though we knew that the baby isn’t gonna be a small (or short) one since Mommy A is 6’1″/185cm tall and the donor about 5’10”) but average weight at week 37 is normally 2800-3100g / 6lb 3oz – 6lb 13oz…

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On Saturday night (July 6th) we made “an emergency visit” to our hospital’s maternity ward, because Mommy A started having some pre-eclimpsia symptoms (mild headache, some vision blurring and cause she had some “puffyness” in her face/eyelids..even when she had been drinking enough fluids daily…). But after being at the monitors for like 45mins and after urine test and fetal heart rate monitoring, it turned out that everything was ok (and Mommy A’s BP had actually turned towards better, it was closer to normal 120/80 than it was few days earlier!), so we didn’t have to stay and spend the night there!

Though it has been (finally, dont know if its good/nice now at the moment and while being pregnant) hot/summer in here, +25c/ 77F and over, so that alone can cause “puffyness” and higher blood pressure…

But at least now we know, that if not sooner, the baby will born by July 29th. We have an appointment with the hospital doc and midwife on July 24th and then we’ll start to look for what’s the best option to start to induce the labour! So only 3 more weeks to go and our little one will be here! ❤

While we are excited, all this extra worrying has taken its tool on us! Either one of us haven’t had much energy to do anything during the last weekend (besides taking dogs for a walk and to the dogpark). And after all this, the idea of being awake every 2hrs to feed the baby (breastfeed or bottle) feels like “a piece of cake” cause then he/she will be with us (outside the womb 🙂 ) and we don’t have to worry about any pregnancy related problems anymore!