1. neuvolakäynti | 1st maternity clinic visit


Toissapäivänä oli ensimmäinen neuvolakäynti (7+3). Terveydenhoitaja oli nuori ja mukava (varmaankin suunnilleen meidän ikäinen), mutta oli hieman “pihalla” siitä että miten tämä meidän sikiö on saanut alkunsa😀 .Saimme ihan konkreettisesti selittää koko prosessin läpi (näitä juttuja ei ilmeisesti opeteta ammattikorkeakoulussa terveydenhoitajille mitenkään…) Taisimme siis olla ensimmäinen naispari-asiakas hänelle, mutta suhtautuminen oli erittäin myönteinen ja varmasti hänkin oppii jotain uutta tässä matkan varrella.

Onneksi/toivottavasti meillä tulee olemaan sama terkkari läpi koko äitiysneuvola-ajan, sillä pelkäsimme eniten että saamme terkkariksi sellaisen “vanhan kääkän”, jonka mielestä lapsella pitäisi olla sekä isä että äiti ja että kaikki muut vaihtoehdot (yh-äiti tai kaksi samaa sukupuolta olevaa vanhempaa) ovat suunnilleen syntiä…

Kovasti odottelemme ensi viikon ultraa (8+5), jolloin vihdoin pääsee näkemään miten se pieni sikiö (jota kutsun meidän “alieniksi” :D) siellä voi ja että kaikki on hyvin. Ja että samalla saisi muutaman ultrakuvan joita voi sitten tuleville mummeille esitellä <;;3

Omat (Äiti B) vanhempani tietävät jo raskaudesta ja ovat innoissaan (tosin olivat kerrottaessa kovin positiivisesti yllättyneitä!), mutta Äiti A:n äiti ei tiedä asiasta vielä mitään… Jouluna olisi tarkoitus kertoa (Äiti A:n äiti asuu n. 3 tunnin ajomatkan päässä, eli emme tapaa niin usein). Hänellä on ennestään jo 4 lastenlasta ja hän tuskin osaa odottaa nuorimmaisensa tekevän lapsia (kun kerran seurustelee naisen kanssa…) joten tämä voi tulla todellisena yllätyksenä… tai sitten järkytyksenä… se jää nähtäväksi!).

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Ystävämme kaunis Helmi-vauva (ikä 3 viikkoa), Our friend’s beautiful baby Helmi (girl, age 3 weeks). Photo: Eeva N. © (All rights reserved)

We had our first maternity clinic visit on Wednesday (7w+3d) and it went very well. The nurse is young (about the same age as we are) and she took our situation very well (though we had to explain to her what home insemination means, how it’s done etc…😀 I guess we are her first same sex couple… But I hope that as we learn new things from there, she will also get new perspective to different kind of families from us.

Gladly she will be our maternity nurse the whole way, so we don’t have to meet different person every time. We were a bit affraid that we would get some “old lady” who would be less tolerating towards our family situation, thinking that all babies should have mother and father etc. (that single moms and same sex parents are “living in sin” or something like that…)

Now we are just waiting for next week and Thursday (8w+5d), when we will have that first ultrasound and that we can see our fetus/baby for the first time and see that everything is ok <;;3 And that our little “tummy tenant” (or as I call him/her “our little alien”😀 ) has arms, legs, both sides of brains and all cambers in his/her heart are ok… and that heartbeat is ok too!

And also that we can get few printed ultrasound pics to show to the future grannies (my mom knows already, but we will tell Mommy A’s mom, that her daughter is pregnant, during X-mas… My mom is so “hippie” that she took it very well and is excited for the first grandchild (even it’s not her bio-grandchild… but she does’nt make it the difference and she didn’t even need to ask for details when we told about home insemination…)…

But we will see how Mommy A’s more concervative mom will react… (because I bet that she hasn’t even dreamed of having any more grandchildren (she has 4 already, and Mommy A is her youngest daughter…. an living with a woman…. so…). She lives like 3 hour drive from us, so we’re not seeing her very often…. But we still hope that the reaction will be more into positive side…

And my parent’s, who can’t wait to be grandparents, live like 2km from us… So atleast I know that my mom will be more than happy to take care of the baby if needed..

And we seem to have some new readers from Brazil and Serbia, welcome!

But happy weekend to you all!!!

-Mommy B-

3 thoughts on “1. neuvolakäynti | 1st maternity clinic visit

  1. Congratulations! That first appointment can be so nerve wracking and I’m glad to hear you had a good experience and an understanding nurse. Next week will be even more fun!!! I have actually had some of the best reactions from older nurses and midwives about being a lesbian who is having a baby on her own. My midwife is in her 60s and she was thoroughly excited to share a story about two dads who had a sister of one be the surrogate for them. Even if you get some negative reactions, there will be more positive ones to outweigh them. Have fun!

  2. I’m happy for you that your mother is excited about baby, my parents are ‘hippies’ too, so have always been very accepting about my sexuality. I hope that it all goes well with your wife’s mother and she is happy for you both too. My wife’s mother is very catholic and struggled with being okay with us wen she came and stayed with us for 5mths last year. She liked me a lot as a person but still encouraged my wife to move home to the Caribbean without me. She felt sorry for me when I miscarried the baby though, but I don’t think in anyway felt it was related to her or a grandchild, even though not only was the baby Toku’s, but also her ‘actual’ grandchild as it was her son Manaaki who was our donor. Mind you, the poor dear, that’s quite a lot to take in! I might do a post about that sometime lol.

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